Halloween NOT Harvest

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Singles ministry leaders, listen up. We are going to share one of the best-kept secrets in singles ministry for FREE. Here it is. Do events that singles want to do, but in a controlled Christ-honoring environment where the love of God is shown. Yes, it is that simple. When it comes to Halloween however, many churches run as far away as possible to be associated with celebrating its existence. But, singles want to gather and be around others at celebrations, holidays, and any occasion that couples or families may choose to gather.

So, here are some tips to help you make Halloween NOT just a Harvest party!

  1. Dress up!
    1. Nothing is wrong with costumes that are tasteful and creative. It also does not have to be expensive, the best costumes are often home made and funny.
  2. Carve Pumpkins!
    1. It’s a fruit! Nothing makes carving fruit evil or satanic, yet many people have never carved a pumpkin in their lives. Buy a bunch of pumpkins and watch your single group laugh, engage one another, and have fun.
  3. Play Halloween Music
    1. Yes, we mean Thriller. Michael Jackson left us one of the best songs to dance to at Halloween and you can have so much fun getting your group to dance. Teach the moves and have a few “ringers” to help everyone learn.
  4. Have Contests with Rewards
    1. Have a 1st, 2nd, and 3rd place awards for costumes, dance moves, and pumpkin carvings. Gift cards work best and set-up the categories prior to the event so people can choose which prize to go for. Let everyone vote and have fun.
  5. Christ Honoring Environment at Halloween
    1. Keep your costumes modest and focus on creativity not shock factor.
    2. Make decorations more fall and pumpkin themed.
    3. Make a category for the pumpkin carving contest “Christian” themed, you will be surprised at how creative people can be.
    4. Be bold in why your event is different than other Halloween parties. Explain the Christian themed pumpkins and share the Gospel doing so!

Halloween is also a great time for singles to serve with their local church or community on Halloween night. You can get involved with a church sponsored Trunk or Treat or whatever event your church does to connect with the community on Halloween night. So be sure to plan your halloween party a weekend before October 31st. Your singles will be talking about this event for years to come and telling their coworkers and friends about how much fun they had at the event.
Also be sure to take a moment and let your group know during the event you are with ___ church and invite them to a specific small group time where they can get connected to your ministry. Many singles will bring guests to this type of event because they are single too and are looking for somewhere to share in on the ghoulish fun. This event is a win for reaching new singles, a win for your ministry, and a win for the church getting involved in the community.

PDA – Public Display of Affection

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PDA is everywhere. Holding hands, kissing, hugging, all sometimes done to an extreme in public. It’s the level of PDA as believers that we can control and that should be modest. Sometimes single adults who have found someone have been known to, well, show excessive PDA. This comes from possibly years of not being able to have someone to share physical emotions with and finally getting the chance to do so. As believers, you need to do whatever you do to the glory of God, 1 Corinthians 10:31. This includes the way you show physical emotions in public and private.

For those of you who have just started dating and have been confronted about your PDA or you are concerned you are showing too much PDA, a few words of advice. Likely you are showing this PDA around your single friends, so be considerate. It was not that long ago you were on the outside looking in on this type of relationship. Be sensitive to your friends and withhold from excessive PDA in their presence. There is a reasonable level of PDA to be accepted in social situations. But keep your PDA modest as to honor God and respect your friends.

To single adults who have witnessed excessive PDA from your now dating single friend, a few words of advice. First, do not gossip about it to your friends. Confront the couple and lovingly tell them to please be sensitive around you and others with their PDA. Second, not all PDA from your now dating friends is bad. Let them express some PDA even when you are not in the mood, just as you would want the same treatment someday when you may be with someone.

East Asia Trip

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I had never traveled outside of the United States, let alone gone further west than Texas. Presented with an opportunity to go and deliver Bibles to Chinese tourists in East Asia was a tempting offer, however with only a few months until my wedding day I had reservations about traveling so far, and most of all the finances involved. So I declined and continued on being a singles minister at my church. Then the Lord provided all the funds to go on the trip and the team needed just one more guy to join them. I heard the Lord clearly,”Go!”.

So, I did my research, packed my bags for East Asia, and prepared for my first experience overseas in missions. I had no clue what to expect and expected a third world experience. Nothing could be further from the truth. We landed in East Asia before traveling to our final destination and I was blown away by how much our cultures were alike and how simple it was to travel in another country. Then we continued on to our final destination and I was greeted with internet, food, bottled water, electricity and a normal toilet. All my fears were gone!

Every day I would Skype home to my family and fiance. My mother was in the hospital fighting an infection from breast cancer treatments and I was able to talk to her every day. I also wrote down every thought and funny thing that happened so I could remember it for years to come. The first day we got to speak the native language and offer free Bibles was incredible. This was truly an awesome ministry of empowering people with God’s Word, many who had not seen a printed copy and cherished the idea of owning one to read. I even was able to be a singles minister to a US soldier stationed and on medical leave. I was able to be a singles minister, a million miles away from my church. God is awesome.

One day I woke up, having dreamed all night in the native language which I did not know. It was a happy dream, but just like reality, I had no clue what was going on. The Lord was deepening my heart for these people and to this day I pray for them. When our trip concluded, we had passed out over 10,000 Bibles in one week and saw people come to know the Lord. My biggest take away from this trip was that God had grown me through this trip and every person should experience another culture in missions as part of their spiritual growth.

I want to encourage you as a single adult to be bold in your finances and time for the Kingdom. Make a plan to go on mission for Him and take opportunities and risks to see that happen in your own life. Missions in another country is something to be experienced in person if at all possible, but if you can’t go, then support and fund others to do so. Your gift will be helping them to grow spiritually and share the Good News around the globe. Be active in missions as a single adult and let God use you any way He can for His glory.