Singles Struggling with a Desire for Intimacy
As single adults, sometimes we can feel like we’re missing out on a big perk of a romantic relationship or or the intimacy it offers.
- Maybe you have been married or had a partner and dislike sleeping alone.
- Maybe you noticed a very attractive person and fantasized about a romantic relationship and the intimacy it promises.
- Perhaps you are currently in an intimate relationship outside of marriage and know it’s not what God intended, but change is difficult, especially when it comes to finding true intimacy.
No matter your situation, if you are a single adult who desires intimacy, you are not alone in your search for meaningful connections and intimacy. There is hope! We know there is hope through a relationship with God because he tells us so. Isaiah 43:1 mentions, “Do not be afraid, for I have ransomed you. I have called you by name; you are mine.” No matter what situation you are in or facing, God loves you and claims you as his.
1 Corinthians 10:13 states the temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. Just having someone to relate to can make a difference!
Ephesians 5:3 says, “Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God’s people.” You are one of God’s people, and you are better than what the world calls normal and are called to a higher standard.
Picture it, Eve, in the Garden of Eden. God gave life, a garden, beautiful trees filled with delicious fruit, and rivers surrounding gold and incense. Animals that walked around the garden and flew above the trees. God gave purpose, freedom, empathy, peace, and, most of them all, an open relationship with him.
In Genesis 3, Eve conversed with the serpent, and he utilized her vulnerability to exploit her desire for intimacy:
- Serpen t: “Did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden?”
- Eve : “Of course, we may eat fruit from the trees in the garden. We are not allowed to eat the fruit from the tree in the middle of the garden. God said, ‘You must not eat it or even touch it; if you do, you will die.'”
- Serpent : “You won’t die! God knows that your eyes will be opened as soon as you eat it, and you will be like God, knowing both good and evil.”
Genesis 3:6 states that Eve was convinced. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Eve forgot all at once about all she did have and all that God gave.
Singles, s ometimes our struggling stems from what we feel is missing or lacking in our life, just like Eve in the garden .
So when you feel lonely, tempted, or just plain ole discouraged, remember your relationship with God and all he allowed you to have and do. I’ve adopted the attitude of Emily Heller ( emilysquotes.com). She says,
“I’ve been single for a while, and I have to say it’s going very well.
Like… it’s working out. I think I’m the one.”
