A single wrote into us and asked “How can I keep from desiring a relationship 24/7?” This is a great question and a struggle many single adults have. The root of this question is trying to fill a void of loneliness, that makes a person feel like they need someone in their life because they are so lonely. Loneliness can come into our lives in many different circumstances. It can be from being alone at home, feeling alone in society, suffering when no one is there to comfort you, or from the loss of a loved one. As a single adult, you are faced with the decision to allow loneliness to pervade your life.
However, it may not be that simple. What are your motives for wanting to be in a relationship all the time? Maybe you are not fully trusting in God with the desires of your heart so the He may direct your path. Trust can take a long time to earn and seconds to end. Trust is the foundation of currency in the world, agreements between Nations, and the foundation of a relationship with Christ.
Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:4-7
Desiring a relationship is not wrong, but as a single you should focus on the most important relationship in your life, Jesus Christ. Get to know Him more, spend time in His word and spend time in prayer with Him. The outflow of that relationship will result in God-honoring relationships as the right person comes along, but always remember, marriage isn’t the finish line.
