PDA is everywhere. Holding hands, kissing, hugging, all sometimes done to an extreme in public. It’s the level of PDA as believers that we can control and that should be modest. Sometimes single adults who have found someone have been known to, well, show excessive PDA. This comes from possibly years of not being able to have someone to share physical emotions with and finally getting the chance to do so. As believers, you need to do whatever you do to the glory of God, 1 Corinthians 10:31. This includes the way you show physical emotions in public and private.
For those of you who have just started dating and have been confronted about your PDA or you are concerned you are showing too much PDA, a few words of advice. Likely you are showing this PDA around your single friends, so be considerate. It was not that long ago you were on the outside looking in on this type of relationship. Be sensitive to your friends and withhold from excessive PDA in their presence. There is a reasonable level of PDA to be accepted in social situations. But keep your PDA modest as to honor God and respect your friends.
To single adults who have witnessed excessive PDA from your now dating single friend, a few words of advice. First, do not gossip about it to your friends. Confront the couple and lovingly tell them to please be sensitive around you and others with their PDA. Second, not all PDA from your now dating friends is bad. Let them express some PDA even when you are not in the mood, just as you would want the same treatment someday when you may be with someone.
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It’s not that it’s insensitive to singles. Single,dating or married, it can be a uncomfortable display to witness as you feel that you are invading a personal intimate moment reserved between a couple, as of you just walked in on something private, yet in public space. Our YA leader recently started dating one of the women in the YA group. Since than they have been dating, they have displayed PDA what you would see in young teenagers while he is addressing the group. THey would be lying half on the ground, their legs intwined while his hand was on her kneee as he is addressing the group with a biblical lesson. It was very distracting to say the least. I’d you have ever seen holly and Michael Scott from the office From the episode of PDA. It was pretty close to this. It is also inappropriate ( in my opinion) for a leader to display this behaviour infront of young adults not only in a lesson, but in general within the group as you may not be sure as to who in the group, who may struggle with sexual sin and believe that this type of intimacy is appropriate. This is not to judge but just consider the ramifications of how it may effect others.