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6 Week Study: Embrace the Table

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In 6 sessions this study is meant to start the foundation of a community group in your local church or to connect singles in an existing group.

Topics include:

Defining Single Adults
Marriage is not the Finish Line
Fear & Worry
Loneliness at the Table
Singles in Scripture
Complete in Christ
The Fruit of the Spirit

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Recently Posted Blogs

Singles Blog: Blogs are everywhere! However, Blogs for Singles and Ministry Leaders to Singles are hard to find. Table for One Ministries is a balanced ministry that focuses on all types of single adults. Single, Dating, Engaged, Divorced, Single Parents, Same-Sex Attraction, and Widows. In addition to these blogs, we write on marriage and singles that are passionate about missions. Look around, share, and leave a comment!

What To Do When the Church Fails You

First and foremost, I want to say this is not a piece bashing the church. Did the church fail me? Were there consequences? Yes and yes. What am I doing now? But most importantly, what did God do? September 2019 marked two years since my world fell apart. It wasn’t the typical tragedy you hear […]
You Don’t Deserve my Forgiveness

I forgive you. Three words that people fight to say all the time. It could be pride, jealousy, or even anger that causes us not to want to offer forgiveness but we don’t say them nearly enough. Why? How can we learn how to say “I am sorry” and offer forgiveness to those who don’t […]
A Single Budget: Those Unexpected Expenses

For some, it is pretty easy to stick to a Spending Plan except when some unexpected expense arises. Some of these expenses can be predicted, some are just pure, unwelcome surprises. It is important to have an emergency fund to take care of the unwelcome surprises that we know will happen from time to time. […]
A Single Budget: How Can I Have a Life When I Have No Money?

What a great church service you had this morning. Now all your friends from the Singles Group are heading out to lunch. You know your money is tight and a constant headache, but you just can’t take going back to your apartment and having something frozen. Besides you deserve to go out to eat because […]
Will Marriage Fix My Sexual Desires?

“But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” – 1 Corinthians 7:9 Marriage is more than a fix for sexual desires. In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul addresses marriage to the married, single, widowed and divorced adults. In light of the above passage, how […]
A Single Budget: So What’s the Plan?

So, you are single, carefree and are thinking a week at a beach house with your buddies sounds like a great vacation. Or maybe you are a single parent who wants to give your 7-year old and your 9-year old the magical vacation that every child dreams of…a trip to Disney World! So you just […]
A Single Budget: A Spiritual Revival

Money is the root of all evil, right? Not even close. Money is neither good nor bad. Money is a tool that can be used for some very good things, like feeding your family or giving to support a ministry. Money can also be a tool to do bad things like spoil children or finance […]
Single vs Married 3 Bucket List Differences

A bucket list is a compiled list of ideas, experiences and achievements a person wants to do before “kicking the bucket” (dying). So how is that list different for a single adult versus a married adult? Here are three categories we see they are the same and three ways we see they are different. […]
Marriage isn’t the Finish Line

The big day is here! Here comes the bride all dressed in white. The groom dressed to the nines in his rented tux stands fidgeting at the front to begin a ceremony that moves even the hardest of hearts to tears. Then comes the reception including a toast from the father of bride of just […]
Lady Porn

Ladies, don’t think you are immune to the trap of pornography. According to XXXChurch.com, 49% of women found pornography an acceptable way of expressing sexuality. Thirteen percent of women admit to viewing pornography at work and one of every three visitors to porn websites are women. Even worse, 34% of church-going women admit to looking […]

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Blogs for Singles

What To Do When the Church Fails You

First and foremost, I want to say this is not a piece bashing the church. Did the church fail me? Were there consequences? Yes and yes. What am I doing now? But most importantly, what did God do? September 2019 marked two years since my world fell apart. It wasn’t the typical tragedy you hear […]
Names for a Singles Ministry

We have had requests to post a list of singles ministry names we found while serving singles and those who lead singles during the past few years. This list is names we have seen with some added suggestions. Feel free to comment and add your own names as you find them. At Table for One […]
Creating a Church Where Same-Sex Attraction Singles are Welcomed

At Table for One Ministries we want every church to have an environment in which those struggling with homosexually or acting on their earthly desires can come to find the truth of God’s Word regarding the issue. We have asked those who struggle with same-sex attraction what environment they were in when they shared their […]
Single Parent and Complete in Christ

Complete in Christ not just a lifestyle. It is a mindset that no matter what happens or what worldly influences persist, wholeness is found in the Lord. Single families need to be reminded of Jeremiah 1:5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you…” Single […]
All In

If I had known at 20 that at age 30 I would be serving as a single female missionary in the Middle East, I would have probably married the next guy that came along. And, I would have regretted it, I’m positive. Why? Because I am right where I am supposed to be. On the […]
Another Closed Door

When my marriage of 14 years ended against my wishes, I drove to and from work, often not remembering how I got there. When I arrived home at the end of the day, I found myself staring at the television without registering what was on. I was a zombie. All I could think was, “What […]
You Don’t Deserve my Forgiveness

I forgive you. Three words that people fight to say all the time. It could be pride, jealousy, or even anger that causes us not to want to offer forgiveness but we don’t say them nearly enough. Why? How can we learn how to say “I am sorry” and offer forgiveness to those who don’t […]
A Single Budget: Those Unexpected Expenses

For some, it is pretty easy to stick to a Spending Plan except when some unexpected expense arises. Some of these expenses can be predicted, some are just pure, unwelcome surprises. It is important to have an emergency fund to take care of the unwelcome surprises that we know will happen from time to time. […]
Is Sexting OK in My Relationship

For those unaware, sexting is a form of provocative language between a couple using electronic communication. In a relationship, couples will often find creative ways to convey their love to one another. In years of old, this may have been letter writing or heaven forbid an actual conversation. In any relationship communication is key, but […]
A Single Budget: How Can I Have a Life When I Have No Money?

What a great church service you had this morning. Now all your friends from the Singles Group are heading out to lunch. You know your money is tight and a constant headache, but you just can’t take going back to your apartment and having something frozen. Besides you deserve to go out to eat because […]
Will Marriage Fix My Sexual Desires?

“But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” – 1 Corinthians 7:9 Marriage is more than a fix for sexual desires. In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul addresses marriage to the married, single, widowed and divorced adults. In light of the above passage, how […]
A Single Budget: So What’s the Plan?

So, you are single, carefree and are thinking a week at a beach house with your buddies sounds like a great vacation. Or maybe you are a single parent who wants to give your 7-year old and your 9-year old the magical vacation that every child dreams of…a trip to Disney World! So you just […]
A Single Budget: A Spiritual Revival

Money is the root of all evil, right? Not even close. Money is neither good nor bad. Money is a tool that can be used for some very good things, like feeding your family or giving to support a ministry. Money can also be a tool to do bad things like spoil children or finance […]
Single vs Married 3 Bucket List Differences

A bucket list is a compiled list of ideas, experiences and achievements a person wants to do before “kicking the bucket” (dying). So how is that list different for a single adult versus a married adult? Here are three categories we see they are the same and three ways we see they are different. […]
Marriage isn’t the Finish Line

The big day is here! Here comes the bride all dressed in white. The groom dressed to the nines in his rented tux stands fidgeting at the front to begin a ceremony that moves even the hardest of hearts to tears. Then comes the reception including a toast from the father of bride of just […]
Separated or Single?

He walked out on his marriage a month ago and comes to your church. He’s brand new and comes to the singles group. He seems nice and you greet him, talk to him, and connect him. Over lunch that week, he mentions that he is recently divorced. As the conversation progresses, you realize that when […]
Lady Porn

Ladies, don’t think you are immune to the trap of pornography. According to XXXChurch.com, 49% of women found pornography an acceptable way of expressing sexuality. Thirteen percent of women admit to viewing pornography at work and one of every three visitors to porn websites are women. Even worse, 34% of church-going women admit to looking […]
Want to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage?

Singles you may or may not be married some day. At Table for One Ministries, we often include in our blogs the idea of being Complete in Christ for singles. But being Complete in Christ is not just for singles. It is for all adults. If you one day are called to marriage, remember this […]
The Discipline of a Sacred Friendship

One of the few things that Hollywood has gotten right over the past few years is tapping into the “friendship effect” among young single adults. On any given evening, you can find numerous TV programs that depict a community of young adult friends (male and female) sharing life together as a “family” in a postmodern […]
Being Dad Through Divorce

Divorce is ugly. Talk to anyone who is going through or has survived a divorced and unanimously they will say, even in the best of circumstances, divorce is hard. When children are involved in divorce, the stakes and emotions are even higher. From the day one spouse says the words “I want a divorce”, […]
Being Mom Through Divorce

Divorce is nasty. Talk to anyone who is going through or has survived a divorced and unanimously they will say, even in the best of circumstances, divorce is hard. When children are involved in divorce, the stakes and emotions are even higher. From the day one spouse says the words “I want a divorce”, life […]
A culture that hides death hides the Gospel

History lessons teach the impact of death prevalent in culture when death is removed. A look at the Middle Ages finds people lived daily with the reality of death. A look at our current culture reveals a much different story. The current American lifestyle not only doesn’t discuss death, it finds ways to minimize and […]
The Lie of Porn

Porn is gripping, ruins marriages, is addictive, and while you are single will offer a lie that it is harmless since you are not in a relationship. Porn is not harmless. It affects women and men of all ages and according to xxxchurch.com 25% of all search requests in the US are pornography related and […]
I Fell in Love with an Atheist

There is no way to dice it or dance around it. I loved an atheist. I loved him with every fiber of my being. Had it not ended, I might have loved him more than I love God. In total transparency, my ex still has a small piece of my heart, that tiny shoebox in […]
Why am I single?

The question of why a person is STILL single starts with all the wrong questions and answers. Why am I all alone? – “You’re not good enough” Why have I not purchased a home yet? – “You need a house to be settled” Why is dating so hard? – “Love just happens” Why can’t I […]
Mental Health and Allowing God to Use All Options

Your friends, family, and loved ones already know. They see it on your face every day, and hear it in your voice when you speak. The struggle, once a moment, has settled into a season, and you’re not sure how to get out. You pray. You read Scripture. You believe in a God who heals […]
End of the Rope with Addiction

Do you ever feel torn between doing what you know is right, and then doing the wrong thing anyway? Choosing to continue in a sin that you should be able to be free of, yet you keep making the same mistake. We have some comforting words for you, the apostle Paul had this same struggle […]
Will God Still Love Me After an Abortion?

She’s in your ministry. She’s had an abortion. She wonders, will God love her again? As believers, we are passionate about saving the unborn, but that passion fails to communicate our love for the mothers. The good news is that in the last two decades there has been a substantial drop in abortions. The other […]
Feeling Alone in the Pew

It’s Sunday morning and you are off to church. You arrive on time for the worship service and slip into the back. Then, there it is. The happy couple in front of you with two kids and a dog at home with a nice home and great jobs. Just what you wanted to see when […]
Do I expose my old life to share with others?

A single wrote into us asking “I really need to help another person thru their addiction… in order to provide inspiration, I have to expose my prior self… I am trying my best to let Christ rule my life, and I think I am surrendering to Him… my question to you is, do I expose […]
One Way To Grow Your Singles Ministry You Missed

Pregnancy centers are commonplace now in our cities and towns. These centers of hope of a life yet to be born have contributed to the steady decline of abortions in the past decade. Churches and evangelicals alike praise their existence, from a distance. The sad reality of pregnancy centers are they lack volunteer and church […]
Single Myths: You’ll Know When the Right Person Enters Your Life

The falsity of the statement in this title reaches many levels. If you are a Christ follower, we’re sure you felt the same immediately as a single. Except the importance level, searching for a mate is no different than seeking and drawing closer to Jesus. A relationship whether with Jesus or with a friend […]
Community after College

Graduation day has come and gone. Celebrations of “no more school ever” have faded and college room furniture donated to the next incoming student hopeful for the year ahead. Graduating college is a big day, the start of a new chapter in your life. Maybe you will move back home with your parents or have […]
Single for a Reason?

Through my many years of singles ministry and working with pastors, one phrase is repeated often — “single for a reason”. It is the idea that singles are composed of misfits and odd ducks that are stranger than… married people. Next time you hear this phrase, here are some possible responses: We’re all messed […]
Wise Counsel

Who do you turn to when you have issues in your life? Your phone, social media, a co-worker, or friend? Have you considered the priority order of who you go to? Maybe the order of whom you take your life challenges speaks to your spiritual walk maturity. Consider this: #1 Take it to God […]
A Broken Engagement = Broken Dreams

According to leading wedding industry averages, nearly one-third of engagements end before the wedding day. That means when the right one says “I do,” there is more work to be done besides the wedding details. Engagement is not a time to stop focusing on your relationship, but rather the time to dig deeper into the […]
Distracted

Life is full of distractions. We’re distracted at work, at home, with media, and even our local churches. It’s not hard to wonder why it’s so hard to stay focused on the most important things in our life. How we handle distractions is a part of maturing our faith. Choosing the difference between a distraction […]
It’s Just Me This Christmas

Regardless whether a person is completely content with being single or not, the holidays for older single adults reveal a somber truth. It is logical then to see when time marches on, things change, and those who are dear to us pass on. For singles, this can create a situation they never saw coming. […]
A Singles Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving for a single adult has some different nuances that married adults don’t have. For one, if there is family to be with, it is an easier decision to make to go see them than choosing which side gets which holiday this year. Singles, like married adults, may live in the same city as their […]
Many Faces

Have you ever experienced great customer service? “Out of this world” kindness from a store or restaurant that compelled you to tell others about it on Facebook or Twitter? Now, have you ever wondered if the person that made that experience great was that same way at home as they are at work? Sometimes when […]
We Need the Fruit of the Spirit

Walking to your car after an eight-hour work shift, you are exhausted. You’re almost to your car when a co-worker decides it’s time to chat about life. At first reluctant to enter the conversation, it becomes apparent this person is in need of help. They are living with two of the four children’s father and […]
Four Things the Single Parent Needs from the Church

Single parenting! I remember those days well! When I entered into this stage in my life I had just left the military but little did I realize I was entering into an even bigger challenge. One that would demand more physical and mental stamina than my Drill Sergeants had demanded from me. My daily routine […]
I Pharisee

When I look in the mirror, what do I see? When I ask myself the question, “How am I doing as a Christian?” What measure do I use to answer? In Western Christian circles, the term “Pharisee” is normally used, particularly in a religious context, to describe someone as mean spirited, legalistic, and hypocritical. This […]
It’s ok if you’re wrong

Without guidance, people fall, but with many counselors there is deliverance. Proverbs 11:14 What a strange place to be right now for an evangelical. There was a time when the world made sense, when everyone, at least everyone I knew, voted Republican. We voted that way because that was the party that stood for the […]
This is not a political post telling you who to vote for or who not to vote for!

I have been doing a lot of thinking, and some rethinking due to a clash with a dear friend, about the election lately! Who hasn’t really? But something dawned on me that was really convicting. You see I just came back from a speaking at a weekend retreat in TX. While there I used the […]
The Love Chapter

You roll out of bed on a Sunday morning at the last possible minute and arrive 15 minutes late to your local church small group meeting. Today’s topic is on 1 Corinthians 13, the “love chapter.” Great. You settle in for a morning talking about couples and love and how they can love one another. […]
Fear the Table for One

Fear is an interesting word. Its use invokes emotion from all who have known its grip. The sensation of helplessness is all too often the motivator behind fear. After a horror movie, fear comes from thinking about not being able to control things like you saw on the screen from happening to you as you […]
Don’t Assume My Table for One

I love to eat out. In fact it’s one of my favorite things to do in my week. It’s not that I overeat, I just enjoy going out and tasting new things and meeting new people. I even include it in my monthly budget so I am responsible about my table for one dining experiences. […]
Pushing Through

At times God places a vision inside your heart, or permits some difficulty into your life for your own good, or tells you to move to an unknown land (Genesis 12:1), or tells you to sacrifice your eldest son (Genesis 22)? (Well, not you. Abraham in this case, but you get the idea). Yeah…my instructor […]
Snip, snip. Ouch, ouch!

I have this problem called self-reliance. Lately, it’s been popping up in my prayers in the form of raw inappropriate confession. “I want to do this by myself!” “Why do I have to wait for you! Why do I have to trust you for everything! Isn’t what you have enough?” Yikes. I know, right. But, […]
Shoes & God’s Other Wonders

Whenever I ride the metro in Madrid, I look at people’s shoes. I know it seems weird, but I can’t help it. There are just so many varieties and colors, I can’t seem to take my eyes off them. Red shoes, big shoes, clean shoes, hiking shoes, running shoes, shiny shoes, work shoes, high-heeled shoes, […]
Being Single Means No Broken Heart

Movies portray the single adult as a free spirit and anti-dating all because he or she fears a broken heart. But the realities of a broken heart are nothing new. In Genesis 29, we learn that Jacob works hard for seven years only to wake up the morning after his wedding married to Leah instead […]
El- Roi: The God Who Sees You

And I will make my mountains into level paths for them. Yet Jerusalem says, ‘The Lord has deserted us, the Lord has forgotten us.’ Never! Can a mother forget her nursing child? See I have written your name on the palms of my hands. All the world will know that I, the Lord, am your […]
Light out of darkness

Why do we have difficulties? As followers of the Way, we are called to hard lives. Jesus is pretty clear. Carry your cross. The more we traverse through scripture, the more plain the cross becomes. Lives of sacrifice. Lives where we choose others over ourselves. Lives where we believe and act as if others are […]
The Width of My Hand

Honestly, I thought I had more time, more time to develop the best strategy and to muster the courage. If I would have just had more time to get my own issues figured out, my own life goals in order, THEN I’m fairly certain I would have been ready. I guess I was waiting for […]
Authority of Scripture and a Game of Telephone

Sometimes, I like to play a little game with my students. it’s called “telephone.” The objective of the game is to transfer the same message from the front of the line to the end of the line. When we are ready to begin, I communicate the message to the first person, and then I let […]
Why Would God Allow Me to be Born Gay

Every week, Table for One blogs generate questions. Recently, we’ve received questions about our stance on same-sex attraction and how or why God would even allow someone to have that struggle in our lives. Our immediate response is to say that homosexuals are not alone in their battle with sin. Every person ever born has […]
Having A Heart Ready for His Word

John Piper’s article, “Satan Takes the Word” from DesiringGod.org resonates as it explains the parable of the sower. In the explanation detailed in the above article, Piper tells his audience how to prepare their hearts for the Word. It is tremendously valuable; I advise you to read it. It is in reflection of that article […]
Did I Make a Mistake?

My plane landed in Central Asia in the wee hours of the morning. After training, I couldn’t get here fast enough. This is where I felt called to and had been working towards for a long time. It was finally happening. I was joining the work of taking the Good News to the nations. I […]
Maybe It’s Your Fault You are Lonely

We all see the Facebook posts of a lonely person. Whether married or single, you have friends who post and post, and then post some more. It seems every time you check your feed, you know the last meal the ate and how food was! Then there are posts of loneliness and clear cries for […]
Wholehearted Devotion

Are You All In? Being “all in” is who I am and proud to be. I am not sure when it happened, but sometime after my ministry call hit me, I decided to be a man who made his Yes be Yes and his No be No. Like Matthew 5:37 tells us, I decided to […]
The World is Not Safe! Man Up! (Why banning Muslims is not a good idea)

I get it. I do. We all want to be safe where we sleep, work, shop, and live. We see a threat and we want to eliminate it. We naively believe that if we simply rid ourselves of all perceived threats that we will be safe, or at least be safer. The reality is that […]
Silent Christmas Morning

A single parent has to live with the reality of the first Christmas without the kids. The glow of the Christmas lights from the tree is the only warmth that fills the room. What started out years ago as a joyous holiday morning filled with traditions has disintegrated into court documents dictating where kids will […]
Cautious Compassion: The Syrian Refugee Crisis

He we are again. Caught in the middle of a raging debate that has quickly divided and then devolved into name calling and demonizing our opponents. On one side you have the zealots who are calling for a complete shutting down of our borders to keep out the crazies insisting that ISIS is hiding thousands […]
Lean On Me

“I am the true vine and my Father is the vinedresser. Every branch of mine that does not bear fruit He takes away and every branch that does bear fruit, He prunes that it may bear more fruit. Already you are clean because of the word that I have spoken to you. Abide in me. […]
The Single Parent Family Defined

The contemporary family of today cannot be defined as a nuclear family consisting of a mother and father and children. Families come in different sizes, different ways, and many consist of one parent. Single parents are no longer defined in only one singular category. Single parents come from varied backgrounds, generations, and socioeconomic settings. Single […]
Dating by the Numbers

There are over 54 million single people in the U.S. Let’s take a look at dating by the numbers. — 50% of New York state adults are unmarried, making it the best state for single people. — 48% of singles say they have Googled someone before the first date. — 2% of men and […]
The Non-Practicing Homosexual

Table for One Ministries reached out to friends who had mentioned their accountability group included men who struggle with homosexuality. Intrigued by that situation, we set-up a meeting with two such men to find out more about what it meant to struggle with homosexuality and why they felt comfortable in their current church to speak […]
Single Myths: They Fear Commitment

She has a commitment issue. He has a phobia and can’t commit. If you’re single you’ve either heard it once or a million times. Or, perhaps you’ll admit that you’ve thought it about another single–that guy or gal who says no to marriage, no to a long-term relationship or who seems to jump from one […]
Same-Sex Attraction Singles are in YOUR Church

In the Christian community we often find “super sins” that the majority of believers find to be so offensive that they are unwilling to reach out to anyone who has committed them. Homosexuals are often placed in this category of “super sin.” Many believe that the person with such an open sin against God cannot […]
A Profile of Singles: Widows

A Deeper look at Widows At Table for One Ministries we are passionate about reaching singles of all ages and backgrounds. In this series of blogs we are looking at the “profile” of each type of single adult. While these are not all encompassing, they are meant to help singles and those who lead singles […]
5 Things Married People Dont Get About Singles

1. How singles date now. Dating for singles now is the same as it has always been, but completely different. Confused? Singles now interact with technology in every part of the dating experience. From finding that person they would otherwise never meet online, to texting post date to affirm feelings. In fact, not using […]
Head in the Sand

I sometimes stick my head in the sand. It’s comfortable down there. Especially around the 1st and 15th of the month when I have to sit down, write checks and pay daunting companies for the services they provide out of my already low bank account. Indeed. Punching numbers and paying the Piper has lost its […]
Be An Adult

http://thefederalist.com/2015/01/27/dont-wait-for-your-wedding-to-buy-a-kitchenaid-and-other-ways-to-embrace-adulthood/ So when do you become an adult? Is it when you get keys to your first car at age 16? At 18 when you can make your own legal decisions? At 21 when you can legally drink alcohol? When you move away from home? When you get your first job? When you can pay […]
Just Stop Sinning

We encounter many conversations with single adults and the issue of sin comes up often. Everyone deals with sin–we are in a broken and fallen world. Not everyone, though, deals with sin the same. This is a look at two different stories of dealing with sin. “I can’t be expected to stop sinning” Jared […]
A Profile of Singles: Single Parents

A Deeper Look at Single Parents At Table for One Ministries we are passionate about reaching singles of all ages and backgrounds. In this series of blogs we are looking at the “profile” of each type of single adult. While these are not all encompassing, they are meant to help singles and those who lead […]
Father to the Fatherless

At Table for One, we acknowledge that the children of a single parent often experience a feeling of emptiness for a missing parent. This void is a direct result of God’s plan for every child to have a mother and a father to raise that child in the way he or she should go. But […]
LGBT Adults are Single Adults

It is Table for One Ministries’ intent to have an open dialog for the local church to discuss how to effectively and lovingly reach the homosexual/same-sex attraction community. The premise of this blog is the following: marriage is between one man and one woman, all homosexual activity is a sin, every person is worth reaching, […]
#LOVEWINS? The Attempt to Silence Truth

No doubt you have seen the hashtag #LoveWins attached to many a Facebook status and tweet. At first glance you might assume that it is just another way to celebrate the SCOTUS decision to legalize same-sex marriage in all 50 states. You may interpret it as declaring love wins because now you are free to […]
Who Pushed That Button?

I want life to come easily. One night I even wrote a song about it entitled, “Won’t it Come Easily” as I meowed myself to sleep like a cat licking my wounds, wishing life and love and job came with the giant Staples Easy Button. News flash: No Easy Buttons can be found in the […]
A Profile of Singles: Divorced Singles

A Deeper look at Divorced Singles At Table for One Ministries we are passionate about reaching singles of all ages and backgrounds. In this series of blogs we are looking at the “profile” of each type of single adult. While these are not all encompassing, they are meant to help singles and those who lead […]
A Profile of Singles: Engaged Singles

A Deeper look at Engaged Singles At Table for One Ministries we are passionate about reaching singles of all ages and backgrounds. In this series of blogs we are looking at the “profile” of each type of single adult. While these are not all encompassing, they are meant to help singles and those who lead […]
The Emperor Has no Clothes: Bruce Jenner and Gender Dysphoria

Something is wrong; horribly, disturbingly wrong. And it has to do with the way our culture celebrates a mental disorder. Bruce/Caitlyn Jenner has brought to the forefront a condition that is growing in notoriety in our culture today, Gender Dysphoria. This public spectacle reminds me of the old fable, The Emperor’s New Clothes. In this […]
A Profile of Singles: Dating Singles

A Deeper look at Dating Singles At Table for One Ministries we are passionate about reaching singles of all ages and backgrounds. In this series of blogs we are looking at the “profile” of each type of single adult. While these are not all encompassing, they are meant to help singles and those who lead […]
Single Myths: Singles Have More Time

We all have 24 hours in a day. Now, let us be clear. Singles do not have more time than married folks, but our interests are not divided as much as those with a spouse or kids. In 1 Corinthians 7:32-35, Paul said we all have the same amount of time every day and our […]
Catfished Relationships

Relationships started on a lie are a lie. We watch on TV where people pretend to be someone else in order to “win” a person over. Doing insane things they don’t like all for the sake of being who the other person wants them to be. But here is the problem with that: lies built […]
Racism and Dating

Let’s talk about it. Dating inside or outside of your native race can be a big deal. Regardless of skin color, dating a person of a different nationality or ethnicity may lead to a point of contention. Cultural experiences shape us into who we become whether we admit it or not. Events experienced at a […]
Can I Ask God for a Spouse?

This question is one we get from time-to-time at Table for One Ministries. Usually backed up by Matthew 7:7. Ask, seek, and knock, and it will be given to you. So, is it okay to pray for a spouse? One summer’s day the sun was beating down on the Texas earth and a single adult […]
Am I Still Single Because I’m Fat?

Over 34% of Americans are overweight according to a recent Gallup Poll. Singles who are overweight might ask themselves these questions often: Am I still single because I am overweight? In a men’s Bible study a group of single guys sit together and share about struggles in their life. The conversation may start with small […]
6 Ways to Know if You are Ready to Date

Six Signs You are Ready to Date! Are you Completely satisfied in Christ? If you feel like you need someone of the opposite sex to complete you, you are not ready. If you are seeking someone to make you happy with material things, you are not ready. If you are hoping someone will improve your […]
3 Reasons Your Singles Ministry is Failing

Years ago singles ministries were everywhere. Every church had one, and it was seemingly exciting and attractive to the community. Then something happened–they all started to disappear. First there were no new people entering singles groups. Many married from within the group and simply by attrition the ministry dwindled in numbers as it failed to […]
WANTED: Tall, blond, skinny, blue eyes, from the south with a college degree…

Singles, we all have “types” when it comes to dating. From even a young age, everyone has an ideal person they think they should date. At a young age, the toy market pushes the “ideal” image of the opposite gender to children. By the time we reach a dating age, we gravitate towards someone without […]
A Biblical View of Masturbation

Recently on ask.fm Table for One Ministries was asked, “Is their a Biblical view on masturbation? Is it ever, okay?” Well, that’s a question that could have a volume of responses. So we are going to do our best to respond to the main theme of this question: Does the Bible have a stance about […]
Politics and Dating

Do you date outside your political views? The current hostile political environment in America can affect dating relationships. We’ve heard stories of first dates asking what political party their potential mate is affiliated with. Christians in America are guilty of making a person’s political allegiances dictate their relationship interactions. For that matter, so are non-Believers. […]
Five Steps to Starting a Singles Group

Pray. This may seem like an obvious step, but sometimes an idea is acted upon out of enthusiasm and not with a clear plan guided by His hand. You are likely to know several singles in your church. Enlist their help as you pray towards God’s plan. And when asked, “does your church have a […]
Let Your Yes be YES!

Let’s be honest. Singles are horrible about waiting until the last minute to commit. After all, something better, more fun, cooler, even a date!– might actually come along. We wait to reply yes on Facebook in fear that if we say yes then a better offer might come along. Singles even often use the phrase […]
The New Single Majority

In 2014 the Bureau of Labor and Statistics released information stating for the first time in the history of collecting their data, singles outnumbered married adults in the workforce. More than half of the workforce is single! While many news agencies ran with this data the wrong way saying that “adults” are more single than […]
Being Single is the Best: No Worries

Okay, maybe not. I admit singles have worries just as much as married couples. But being single is pretty awesome when it comes to having less stress. Not everyone will agree and depending on your personality, this may not be the case. For example, I’m sure single parents do not have less stress! But, from […]
Singles Lose at Christmas

Where will your family celebrate Christmas this year? As the days zoom past before Christmas, families across the country start discussing where Christmas will take place. For some, this is easy. There is a set location and family gathering time regardless of any other circumstances. For others, a tug-of-war begins between single and married siblings. […]
An Eternal Perspective on Worry

I Love Jesus. Jesus Loves Me. I’m Going to Heaven. Simple right? But how many hours do we worry over paying bills, our retirement accounts, and having nice cars? All for what? As born-again Christians, Matthew 6:25-34 is clear how we are to feel about this life. If you want to know more about […]
The Beta Marriage: How Millennials Approach ‘I Do’

Repost from Time Magazine You could say I beta-tested my relationship. It’s a joke, kind of — except that when it comes to millennials and marriage, the beta test may be par for the course. And really, why wouldn’t it be? For a generation reared on technology, overwhelmed by choice, feedback and constant FOMO, isn’t testing a marriage, […]
Between Separation and Divorce

Between Separation and Divorce, there is the: Opportunity to focus on Christ. Do you move forward with divorce? Seek wise counsel. Look to His Word and as 1 Thessalonians 2:16 instructs us, pray continually. Opportunity to grow your relationship with Christ. Dust off your Bible and dig in. Look for verses to strengthen your heart. […]
Single Struggles: Big Purchase, Big Decision

Big Purchase, Big Decision For single adults, financial decisions often feel like something you have to do on your own. Sure, you have friends and family to help. But friends and family are not always the wisest counsel when it comes to large purchases. Who do you trust when you have to make a tough […]
Singles Struggles: Too Much Time Alone

You might have too much alone time when: When your DVR is always empty because you always watch shows the day they come on When you talk to your co-workers and use your cat’s name so often they think it’s a roommate When you have hit the 1-billion level on Candy Crush When you knitted […]
I am 40 and Still Single

Live Beyond the What-if Life I didn’t want this for my life. I wanted kids in middle school or high school at this point. Just like all my peers. And, I find myself renting, fearful to buy a home in case I find someone and have to move again. What if the right person came […]
What’s the Rush to Marry?

Being engaged is undervalued these days. When did the idea of making a lifelong commitment based off a short term relationship become the norm? The average engagement in America is 14 months, that is right over one year. Yet, in the Christian community, that is considered a “lifetime” of waiting for the “obvious” to happen. […]
How Does Your Church Preach on Same-Sex Attraction?

Three Actions to Take Now to Reach Those Struggling with SSA When was the last time your pastor preached on same-sex attraction? Did he even call it that or did he call it homosexuality, gay, and other terms? Singles ministry and this issue are biblically woven together. The majority who struggle with or engage in […]
True Love Doesn’t Have to Wait

True love doesn’t wait. That’s right. All our lives we were taught by Disney, ABC, Hallmark, and others that someday our one “true love” will come and sweep us off our feet. Get married and have perfect children and live happily ever after. But is that what Scripture teaches us? Christian programs talk about this […]
How Does Your Church Greet Singles?

Greeters across the country will wake up Sunday to serve at thousands of church doors across America. Do they realize nearly 40% of people who walk in their doors will be single adults? True, not every church has the nationwide average, but when singles attend your church how do volunteers respond? Here are some common […]
To Marry or Not: Living Together

As a leader in your singles ministry you will have a dating couple in your group at some point that choose to live together or have a couple come into your group already living together. Sometimes these cohabiting/fornicating/living in sin adults will find their way to a married adult class trying to pass off as […]
Two Homosexuals Walk Into Your Church

At Table for One Ministries we have written several blogs on our stance regarding same-sex attraction. In this blog, we are addressing leaders in the local church regarding how to deal with a homosexual couple that comes to visit your church. First, let’s be very clear. Those that are actively engaged in a homosexual lifestyle […]
Taming the Single Tongue

“With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth comes praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. Can both freshwater and saltwater flow from the same spring? My brothers and sisters, can […]
Single Myths: Every Man Needs a Woman

Men, let’s be real. On TV we are portrayed as slobs, unable to control our emotions, irrational, and most of all, hopeless without a woman. The “Homer Simpson” man requires a woman that can pick up the pieces when bad decisions are made and run the home. When did the idea that men have to have […]
Single Myths: Every Lady Needs a Man

Ladies, let’s be real. Women on TV are often portrayed as going from one man to another, trying to find completeness in a partner–emotionally, sexually, and sometimes, spiritually. The idea prevails that women need another person to be complete even if he is just a very close friend. Even strong, independent types seek someone to […]
Can’t Take It With You

Proven fact: if it’s here, it stays here. Have you ever stopped to look around your home at all the things you have? This is not a blog about how “things” are bad or how we should even sell it all and give it to the poor. This post is about the life of a […]
Should I Date a Friend’s Ex?

Yes. What? Was that answer too quick and easy? Does every blog have to be 1,000 words or more to truly get to the bottom of an issue? Dating a friend’s ex can be complicated if feelings are still involved. It would not be something to rush into, but it is not something to be […]
Slice of Humble Pie

“Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:6-7 Pie is awesome. Very few times will you hear people say no to pie. A good piece of pie is a slice of heaven […]
Am I Still Single Because I Don’t Do the Bar Scene?

Take a look on TV, any show any network. In most every media outlet you are likely to see a stereotype of how singles meet: the bar. It may be a fancy place, or a hole in the wall, but most media are telling singles if they want to meet other singles they need to […]
Single Struggles: Is Online Dating for Christians?

Online dating is a tricky subject. Everyone knows someone who has found the love of their life online, and they are happily married with kids. This creates the idea that online dating is perfect in every way. At the same time, everyone is terrified of the person who lies about everything online in order to […]
I Did Not Plan to be 50 and Still Single

We had a single adult write us the other day and tell us our blogs and overtones seem to be written towards those who are choosing to be single. This person is in their 50’s and bluntly said, they did NOT choose to be single this late in life, it just happened. The years flew […]
Singles on TV

Singles on TV. While singles are not the norm on TV, there has been a trend over the last 20 years to include more singles in TV shows. Cartoons, sitcoms, dramas, even Lifetime movies, all have singles in them. But it wasn’t always this way. TV shows 20 plus years ago thrived on the married […]
Single and Considering an Abortion

The world tells us you that as a single you cannot raise a child alone. Regardless of the life in you, your life and priorities come first. After all, how will you raise a child by yourself? This lie is spread by some who are pro-choice in an attempt for a mother-to-be to feel empowered […]
S.A.D. Day

Singles Awareness Day Sure, some of you may call it Valentine’s Day. But in the singles ministry world, there is never a time of the year that makes your singleness more glaring than February 14th. The retail world loves to pump up its importance, and there always seems to be a sappy love movie that […]
You’re Married…You Wouldn’t Understand

As a married guy with a recent addition of a daughter, I had someone tell me this week that I “do not understand what it’s like to be single.” I have been married for just over two years, and I was single for 28 years. I know way more about being single than being a […]
Single Parent=Exhausted Parent

Unless you have been there, it is really hard to understand. Single parents struggle with so many challenges. Your kids can be sweet, and then sometimes, they can be little terrors. You love them with all your heart and would die for them if called to, but there are also times when you might just […]
Could You Marry in 90 Days?

TLC has launched a show where people meet online, are together for 90 days, and in the end they have to get married or break up. Check out the show here: http://www.tlc.com/tv-shows/90-day-fiance. So the question arises, could you meet someone and marry them in 90 days? Marriage is a big deal! But also a big […]
Being a Witness @ Work

It is hard to share faith in the workplace. For one, many of our employers may discourage that type of conversation and co-workers may not be able to talk while clocked in. Years of retail observation have shown three ways in which you can share your faith as a single adult in the workplace. 1. […]
Christian Idolatry

In Biblical terminology, an “Idol” can be anything we value, honor, or pursue more than we value, honor, or pursue God. It is anything that takes priority in our lives. We tend to think of idols as “evil,” as things that are themselves inherently bad. This thinking misses the point. The evil of idolatry is not […]
Stop Following Your Heart

Have you ever heard of Lemmings? It was a popular game a few years back, when floppy drives were still in use! It’s also an animal associated with the idea of following the leader no matter what, blindly going where they lead. The problem, of course, is that lemmings follow the leader, even if it’s over […]
Missing the Kids

A man walks into a fall festival at his church. The look on his face is weathered from the years of addiction that has cut him off from his children. Where did it all go wrong? It seems like just a few moments ago he was taking his kids trick or treating and now he’s […]
How Can I Keep From Desiring a Relationship 24/7?

A single wrote into us and asked “How can I keep from desiring a relationship 24/7?” This is a great question and a struggle many single adults have. The root of this question is trying to fill a void of loneliness, that makes a person feel like they need someone in their life because they […]
Assuming About Single Parents

Too often we assume. When we see single parents there is an assumption that premarital sex probably occurred and that the other person is long gone abandoning their children. There is also an assumption that single parents almost always come as mothers, not as fathers. Finally there is an assumption they can not do it […]
I’m Gay…Now What?

Being a singles leader does not mean you are in charge of the dating relationships for all who walk into your group. It is, in fact, the opposite of that. You are there to help be a leader they can turn to as they grow in their relationship with the Lord. You are the ear […]
2013 Recap

What an exciting year it has been for Table for One Ministries! Our first year of ministry saw great success in getting our name out there as a ministry to single adults. We have nearly 1,100 likes on Facebook, 2,200 followers on Twitter, 2,500 followers on Instagram, 2,600 followers on Pinterest and we see hits every day on our website from these outlets reading our blogs. […]
The “Friend Zone”

No one is happy. The ladies say the guys won’t ask them out. The guys say the ladies stay in their social circles and won’t come out. No one is on anyone’s romantic radar. Welcome to the Friend Zone. It’s a place that single adults find themselves at almost every church event. Sure, there are […]
Single Struggles: I Don’t Want to Live Without You

After the funeral is over and life has released its hold button, a widow struggles with a new reality that they are now single again. Thoughts and emotions are all capsized in a singular thought “I don’t want to live without you.” It’s not that this widow is suicidal, far from it. It was just […]
Left Behind

As a single guy who is old enough to be pondering questions such as, “Am I contributing enough to my 401(k)?” or, “Does my potential new job offer dental benefits, because I might need dentures soon…?”, I have been around long enough to have witnessed the marriage of many of my best friends. Heck, most […]
Single Struggles: Fear

“Only thing we to fear, is fear itself” – Franklin D. Roosevelt “I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears.” – Psalm 43:4 Fear can be gripping, keeping us paralyzed from taking any action because it could turn out to be the wrong move. Fear is not something we […]
Single Struggles: Alcohol

As a tee-totaling Southern Baptist, I feel under qualified to be writing an article about the particular struggles singles face regarding drinking alcohol. I have a bias against the stuff in this country. I don’t like the way it is marketed, and I don’t like the way our culture uses it. Alcohol has become the […]
Single Struggles: Dying Alone

No matter what the age, relationships status, or amount of friends a person has, the idea of “dying alone” can come from seemingly nowhere and overtake our thoughts to the point of fear and anxiety. Satan would like us to think that we are alone and if we do not take action into our own […]
Single Struggles: Seeing Happy Couples

There they go walking in front of you again. Mr. and Mrs. Perfect with their awesome married life. I bet they have a kid on the way! Wait, there is another young couple walking the opposite way holding hands and clearly in puppy love. Uh, it’s time to leave the mall because just when you […]
Can’t Sleep?

Psalm 4 is an interesting look in the heart of David’s struggles as he sleeps. According to the Center for Disease Control (CDC) 40 million people have sleep disorders. 40 MILLION! 62% of adults experience weekly sleep problems keeping them from resting a full eight hours as recommended. Many people struggle with nightmares, restlessness, and […]
Work/Life Balance as a Single Adult without Children

It’s 4:45 PM and another workday is coming to a close. Or at least it appears that the workday is about to end until your boss calls you and Bill into his office. There is an important meeting with a potential customer the next morning and he needs one of you to stay late to […]
Sunday Single Selection

It is Saturday night and you know you should go to church tomorrow, yet you have reservations in your heart about where to go or if you should find somewhere new to go. You want to Worship and hear the Word preached, but the church you go to does not seem to get being single or you […]
Single Struggles: Trusting Others

As a single man in his mid-forties, I lead a pretty blessed life. I have been actively walking with Christ for over thirty years now and have followed Him across three continents and seven or eight countries. I enjoy my work, I am active in my local Church, I am financially stable and I own […]
Singles Struggles: Baby Envy

Maternal instincts for some women are deep and for single women this causes a challenging problem. Some single women have a deep desire to be mothers, some more than others. For those ladies who have this deep desire, but have not found a spouse to share this with, this post is for you. God made you […]
Single Struggles: Shopping Alone

One single adult told us that they struggled with shopping alone. While some purchases may not be as big a deal on your own, certainly there are times when we all need a wingman or wingwoman for support. When you are single, shopping alone will happen, but if you plan your time you will be […]
Single Struggles: Wanting to be accepted for being single

I’ve been single for 20 years of my life. Yes, I was born single. Not that I thought about it that much throughout my life. It was just something I assumed. But as I approached 17-18, people began asking that question; “Are you dating someone? But I never was. I am a single man, happy […]
Let The Games Begin!

Perhaps you have heard about this. The Game Show Network (GSN), buoyed by the success of “The American Bible Challenge,” has decided to develop another new game show with believers in mind. And so, they are developing “It Takes a Church,” a dating show where church members compete against each other to find the perfect […]
Freedom in Confession

“Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” James 5:16 Confession is an interesting thing. Until you have confessed with your mouth that Jesus Christ is Lord, you can not be saved, Romans 10:9. So […]
Remembering 9/11 in 2013

September 11th, 2001, planes used as missiles attacked our nation and thousands were dead. September 11th, 2012, 11 years after the original attack on our nation we are attacked again overseas in an embassy, many including our ambassador are dead. 9/11 should not just be another day, but a day that we remember and share […]
Single Christian or Christian Single?

Which is more prevalent in your life? Being single or being a Christian? Well, if we are giving the correct “churchy” answer, we would say being a Christian, but many times, truth be told, it is more about being single. Our world is more focused on marriage, families, and even civil unions. Single is seen […]
Rumor Has It

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29 Can you keep a secret? Secrets are intended to keep someone away from information that they “should not know.” The funny thing […]
Do Not Worry

“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:34 As a single adult there is a lot to worry about. There is sometimes pressure from friends and family to “find someone and settle down,” finances with only one income, and balancing a […]
On the Market

So you are looking for someone to date and you are officially “on the market.” Good for you! If you have a desire to find someone and maybe a future spouse, you have to be willing to put yourself out there and meet new people. You can do this in many ways and some of […]
What’s in a Verse?

Are you a Pinner? Table for One is on Pinterest @ www.pinterest.com/tableforonemin. We have over 1,500 followers and nearly 4,000 pins. We see nearly 100,000 views a day of our pins and many visits to our website from those pins. Our pins that generate the most traffic are ones with Scripture on them. What is […]
I Don’t Need You Today, God

Going a day without prayer is like telling God “I don’t need you today.” Wow. As followers of Christ, would we ever want to even think such a thing? But we all do, we all go a day without praying sometimes. Maybe it is because you had a long day, or you are busy and […]
Is Me Being Single the Problem?

I am a single woman in her late thirties. I have become accustomed to family and friends questioning my singleness. Am I seeing anyone? Do I want to be seeing anyone? Do I not desire marriage and family? Do I not fear an approaching loneliness as I grow older? Not until recently, however had I […]
Single Sinner

The filmmakers of “UnMarried: the Rise of Singleness” are not alone in their views that singleness and delayed marriage are significant concerns in today’s church. In his 2004 sermon, “The Mystery of Marriage,” Albert Mohler, president of Southern Baptist Seminary addresses the “sin” of singleness. Mohler states that in 1 Corinthians 7:7, Paul is referencing […]
Is Singleness Causing a Downfall of our Churches? Our Nation?

Singles are sometimes confronted with a litany of (inappropriate?) questions, such as “why hasn’t anyone married you yet?” As uncomfortable, and potentially insulting as those questions are, there is now the theory that singleness is contributing to the downfall of our nation. That is among the points of Family Vision Films new faith-based documentary now […]
Smartphones for Singles

Thanks to the good folks at CNet, we now know that apparently singles prefer smart phone and couples prefer tablets. And you thought only looking for a ring was the way to see if someone was single or not? Our theory agrees with the article, which is that couples can justify the extra cost for […]
Single and Having the Time of my Life?

There is a thought out there that somehow when you are single, you should “be having the time of your life.” That before marriage and kids there is a magical time of singleness that is full of freedom, without responsibilities, with no regrets, and no worries. The only support for this notion is found in […]
Freedom

Fourth of July, Independence Day; the day when Americans celebrate the very heart of our national identity—our freedom. While we celebrate that freedom with hot dogs and fireworks, and acknowledge the great sacrifices individual citizens have made to secure it, we also need to remember that our national liberty is ultimately of this world. The […]
The Dating Line

Where is the line in dating? That invisible line we all wish we knew between what is too far and equally what is too conservative. We are not just talking about physical lines, but spiritual and emotional lines as well. When it comes to physical lines, 1 Timothy 3:1 is directed at deacons, but we […]
Looking for the perfect date?

As kids growing up we have a simple view of the way things should be in life. Money should be easy to come by, we will have big houses like we see on TV, and people get married to Mr. or Miss Perfect. There is only one problem with this, no one is perfect but […]
Christmas Music All Year

I have a confession to make. A few years ago I decided to make a major decision in my life. I would no longer contain Christmas music to one month of the year and in fact I would proudly say Christmas is my favorite music all year long! I play it when coworkers are around, […]
Thorn in My Side

Thorns hurt. Have you ever had a thorn in your finger? It is normally hard to get out and bleeds as well as bruises. As a single adult and as a Christian, you have a thorn in your side, all of us do. You may not know what it is yet, but there is something […]
I Got This

Singles love going to eat with other people and being social. The other part of being single is that your budget only has one income and eating out often can get expensive. Most singles run into this problem and have to cut back on eating out, or keep it under control at the least. But, […]
John 3:16

One of the most popular verses in Scripture is John 3:16. See the different Bible versions of this verse side by side by clicking HERE. The NIV is perhaps the most popular translation: “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son,that whoever believes in him shall not perish but […]
Join Already!

“Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you […]
DTR – Define the Relationship

DTR – Define the Relationship So you have been on a few dates with someone and things look promising. However, you do not know where they stand in their feelings and you would like to be in a committed relationship. Its time for a DTR. Defining the relationship is an honest conversation with someone else […]
Sin Will Make You Stupid

Have you ever heard the phrase “Sin will make you stupid?” Credit Dr. Danny Akin for that phrase. It’s true, sin will make people do incredibly ridiculous things knowing they will get caught in the act. Take people who look at things on the internet in a corporate work environment. Not all, but most corporations […]
Trust in the Lord

Trust can take a long time to earn and seconds to end. Trust is the foundation of currency in the world, agreements between Nations, and the foundation of a relationship with Christ. The Bible speaks a lot about trusting in the Lord. Proverbs 3:5-6 says “With all your heart you must trust the Lord and […]
Is your family keeping you single?

This article is written by Match.com on Yahoo and is an interesting look on a single’s life and what is keeping singles, single. Family relationships can be hard to navigate as a single. The longer you are single, the harder it seems to get. Your vote in the family feels devalued and this is only […]
Abundant Life

Life can be hard. There is also no promise in Scripture that being a follower of Christ will result in an “easy life”, John 16:33. When Christ died on the cross for our sin He took upon Himself to be a payment or atonement for us to the Lord so that we may have a […]
Hand in Hand

You’re walking through the mall on your way to get a shirt and you see it, a couple holding hands. As a single adult, you have been pretty good with not feeling overwhelmed in your singleness, but when you see that emotional and physical connection someone else has, you desire it. Dating may or may […]
Did Christ have to die more for me?

“Just as man is destined to die once, and after that to face judgment, so Christ was sacrificed once to take away the sins of many people; and he will appear a second time, not to bear sin, but to bring salvation to those who are waiting for him.” Hebrews 9:27-28 Did Christ have to […]
Trilogy Epic Movie Day

It’s January. You have just come off a holiday bender that goes back to October, where every month has something to celebrate. Your singles group is broke from Christmas and you as a leader are ready to take a break. So put on your pajamas, pull up a couch and be lazy all day long. […]
Choose: Christmas or Easter?

Christmas: Christ was born! God became man in flesh to be 100% God and 100% man. His birth is God’s way of offering a perfect sacrifice for all mankind’s sins. Not to mention all the Christmas lights, trees, Christmas music, giving and receiving gifts, and time with family. Christmas is pretty awesome. Easter: The child born fully man and […]
Not an Option

When is the last time you made something “Not an Option”? Truly, 100% said to yourself that under no circumstances will I ever ____. Everyone has things that are not options in their lives, such as the clothes worn to work or the food we choose to eat that may cause allergic reactions. Everyone makes […]
Why Give to Table For One?

Table for One Ministries seeks to build community for single adults through discipleship. We are not a para-church organization, but a resource destination to both singles and churches on ways to reach single adults. God has called us to connect single adults to Him! This bold path is one that targets all backgrounds and types […]
Come and Follow Me

We live in a world of would-be leaders. An American adult who ventures into a bookstore or spends time browsing on Amazon will find hundreds of titles that promise to unlock the hidden potential of our “inner leader”. Books claim to distill the essence of leadership by examining the lives of successful CEOs, entrepreneurs, and […]
All Things Work Together

We’ve all heard the saying “God works in mysterious ways.” I would like to add, “and we already know why”. Here is the why: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28 Do you love Him? […]
An Emergency Fund Kind of Day

I had a wonderful time visiting with family at Christmas. Due to my job, I traveled back from Tennessee to Texas on Christmas Day . A storm was moving up from the Gulf and another winter front moving down from Oklahoma. Eventually, these two storms would collide. No worries. I carefully planned to avoid the […]
Table For One’s Statement on Marriage

Table for One Ministries’ mission is to build community for single adults through discipleship. Our ministry focus is helping singles to fully realize their completeness in Christ. Yet we also affirm the importance of marriage and believe that being Complete in Christ is not just for singles, but for married individuals as well. Additionally, while […]
Dating is Way Too Serious

I attended a Christian college. I lived with a roommate attending seminary. I’ve been a part of a large singles group. Basically, I’ve been in a number of Christian circles. And within each circle I’ve noticed a common thread: Dating is way too serious. Maybe you can relate? After a date or two, a couple […]
Coping with Loneliness

Loneliness can come into our lives in many different circumstances. You may be the only person in your home. Society can make a single person feel alone or you may be suffering without no one to turn to for comfort. You may be sad over the loss of a loved one. Each single adult is […]
How to Give Joy to Your Children at Christmas

“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” Romans 12:18 For single moms or dads, Christmas brings added anxieties. You worry about getting your children something they will like while remaining within your budget. You worry the non-custodial parent will get your child something nicer than your […]
Build Your Testimony

What is a testimony? It is simply sharing how you responded to Christ call in your life. After his encounter with Christ when he spoke before King Agrippa the Apostle Paul was an example for us on how to share our testimony. Read Acts 26 to hear Paul tell his story. Before – Acts 26: […]
Time with God

There are some excellent reading plans available to read the entire Bible in a year or even 90 days. These plans are great, and we encourage you to try one at least once. As a follower of Christ, you need to build a relationship with Him and know Him better. This comes through many venues. […]
NYE Countdown!

3….2….1…. Happy New Year! Another year has gone and another one begins. Many singles in your ministry may not want to be alone come the drop of the ball. Starting the year off with friends and fellowship is a great way to look forward to a brighter new year. What can your ministry do to […]
If this is a gift, can I get a refund?

Have you ever heard being single is a gift that some have and some don’t? This comes from 1 Corinthians 7:7-9, where Paul speaks about marriage and singleness. He urges that everyone remain single like him, but realizes not everyone desires to be. He classifies this as a “gift”; he did not burn with passion […]
The Right to Die

You have the right to die. Brittany Maynard, a 29-year-old woman with terminal cancer chose to end her life by assisted suicide. For weeks the media followed her every move, videotaping her best and worst moments. Politicians flocked to support her or speak against her, all the while Christians were and are heartbroken as Brittany […]
Halloween NOT Harvest

Singles ministry leaders, listen up. We are going to share one of the best-kept secrets in singles ministry for FREE. Here it is. Do events that singles want to do, but in a controlled Christ-honoring environment where the love of God is shown. Yes, it is that simple. When it comes to Halloween however, many […]
PDA – Public Display of Affection

PDA is everywhere. Holding hands, kissing, hugging, all sometimes done to an extreme in public. It’s the level of PDA as believers that we can control and that should be modest. Sometimes single adults who have found someone have been known to, well, show excessive PDA. This comes from possibly years of not being able […]
I Am a Widow, But Do I Have To Be Single?

The death of a spouse is tough. In addition to the grief, there can be the confusion of changing financial arrangements, and the assumption of household and family responsibilities that were once shared. For many, there is also the added challenge of discovering where they now “fit” among the social circles present in their local […]
Get Out There

So you are not the “outgoing type” or would rather curl up with a book on Friday night and not engage the world. Or maybe you are the “life of the party” kind of person and hate sitting in silence. Both people are created by God and uniquely wired to have a way to “charge […]
Question Engagement

You have been single for a few years but recently you have been dating someone and it is getting serious, real serious. You are both casually talking about building a life together and dreaming big dreams for your future. Pause. Before you start down those roads too far, remember the step between being married and […]
East Asia Trip

I had never traveled outside of the United States, let alone gone further west than Texas. Presented with an opportunity to go and deliver Bibles to Chinese tourists in East Asia was a tempting offer, however with only a few months until my wedding day I had reservations about traveling so far, and most of all the […]
Strong and Courageous

“Be strong and very courageous. Be careful to obey all the law my servant Moses gave you; do not turn from it to the right or to the left, that you may be successful wherever you go. Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that […]
A Beer with Jesus?

Singles have every opportunity to misuse alcohol. From social situations or exploring a new relationship, to being alone at home where no one is watching. Many theologians have debated the issue of alcohol for Christians, but we will simplify a few things for this post. For leaders, 1 Timothy 3:8 says you are not to […]
Curmudgeons Corner Valentine’s Day

Ah, Valentine’s Day! As late winter exerts its seasonal charms (whether, in your region, that means snow turning to dirty slush, or dismal, chilling rain, or a cheery snot-fostering burst of early pollen…) our society arranged a trite holiday celebrating infatuation, and requiring (as all holidays do) an outlay of precious cash for proper observance. […]
Divorced not Damaged

For singles who have been divorced, it can feel like you have a scarlet “D” on your chest at all times for “Divorced.” The Christian community can often be the worst offenders of this, labeling you as “Damaged” but redeemed. Divorce was not God’s plan for any marriage, but it happens. Jesus even addresses it […]

Blogs for Collegiates

What To Do When the Church Fails You

First and foremost, I want to say this is not a piece bashing the church. Did the church fail me? Were there consequences? Yes and yes. What am I doing now? But most importantly, what did God do? September 2019 marked two years since my world fell apart. It wasn’t the typical tragedy you hear […]
Names for a Singles Ministry

We have had requests to post a list of singles ministry names we found while serving singles and those who lead singles during the past few years. This list is names we have seen with some added suggestions. Feel free to comment and add your own names as you find them. At Table for One […]
Creating a Church Where Same-Sex Attraction Singles are Welcomed

At Table for One Ministries we want every church to have an environment in which those struggling with homosexually or acting on their earthly desires can come to find the truth of God’s Word regarding the issue. We have asked those who struggle with same-sex attraction what environment they were in when they shared their […]
Single Parent and Complete in Christ

Complete in Christ not just a lifestyle. It is a mindset that no matter what happens or what worldly influences persist, wholeness is found in the Lord. Single families need to be reminded of Jeremiah 1:5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you…” Single […]
All In

If I had known at 20 that at age 30 I would be serving as a single female missionary in the Middle East, I would have probably married the next guy that came along. And, I would have regretted it, I’m positive. Why? Because I am right where I am supposed to be. On the […]
Another Closed Door

When my marriage of 14 years ended against my wishes, I drove to and from work, often not remembering how I got there. When I arrived home at the end of the day, I found myself staring at the television without registering what was on. I was a zombie. All I could think was, “What […]
You Don’t Deserve my Forgiveness

I forgive you. Three words that people fight to say all the time. It could be pride, jealousy, or even anger that causes us not to want to offer forgiveness but we don’t say them nearly enough. Why? How can we learn how to say “I am sorry” and offer forgiveness to those who don’t […]
A Single Budget: Those Unexpected Expenses

For some, it is pretty easy to stick to a Spending Plan except when some unexpected expense arises. Some of these expenses can be predicted, some are just pure, unwelcome surprises. It is important to have an emergency fund to take care of the unwelcome surprises that we know will happen from time to time. […]
Is Sexting OK in My Relationship

For those unaware, sexting is a form of provocative language between a couple using electronic communication. In a relationship, couples will often find creative ways to convey their love to one another. In years of old, this may have been letter writing or heaven forbid an actual conversation. In any relationship communication is key, but […]
A Single Budget: How Can I Have a Life When I Have No Money?

What a great church service you had this morning. Now all your friends from the Singles Group are heading out to lunch. You know your money is tight and a constant headache, but you just can’t take going back to your apartment and having something frozen. Besides you deserve to go out to eat because […]

Blogs on Same-Sex Attraction

Creating a Church Where Same-Sex Attraction Singles are Welcomed

At Table for One Ministries we want every church to have an environment in which those struggling with homosexually or acting on their earthly desires can come to find the truth of God’s Word regarding the issue. We have asked those who struggle with same-sex attraction what environment they were in when they shared their […]
Marriage isn’t the Finish Line

The big day is here! Here comes the bride all dressed in white. The groom dressed to the nines in his rented tux stands fidgeting at the front to begin a ceremony that moves even the hardest of hearts to tears. Then comes the reception including a toast from the father of bride of just […]
End of the Rope with Addiction

Do you ever feel torn between doing what you know is right, and then doing the wrong thing anyway? Choosing to continue in a sin that you should be able to be free of, yet you keep making the same mistake. We have some comforting words for you, the apostle Paul had this same struggle […]
Why Would God Allow Me to be Born Gay

Every week, Table for One blogs generate questions. Recently, we’ve received questions about our stance on same-sex attraction and how or why God would even allow someone to have that struggle in our lives. Our immediate response is to say that homosexuals are not alone in their battle with sin. Every person ever born has […]
The Non-Practicing Homosexual

Table for One Ministries reached out to friends who had mentioned their accountability group included men who struggle with homosexuality. Intrigued by that situation, we set-up a meeting with two such men to find out more about what it meant to struggle with homosexuality and why they felt comfortable in their current church to speak […]
Same-Sex Attraction Singles are in YOUR Church

In the Christian community we often find “super sins” that the majority of believers find to be so offensive that they are unwilling to reach out to anyone who has committed them. Homosexuals are often placed in this category of “super sin.” Many believe that the person with such an open sin against God cannot […]
LGBT Adults are Single Adults

It is Table for One Ministries’ intent to have an open dialog for the local church to discuss how to effectively and lovingly reach the homosexual/same-sex attraction community. The premise of this blog is the following: marriage is between one man and one woman, all homosexual activity is a sin, every person is worth reaching, […]
#LOVEWINS? The Attempt to Silence Truth

No doubt you have seen the hashtag #LoveWins attached to many a Facebook status and tweet. At first glance you might assume that it is just another way to celebrate the SCOTUS decision to legalize same-sex marriage in all 50 states. You may interpret it as declaring love wins because now you are free to […]
An Eternal Perspective on Worry

I Love Jesus. Jesus Loves Me. I’m Going to Heaven. Simple right? But how many hours do we worry over paying bills, our retirement accounts, and having nice cars? All for what? As born-again Christians, Matthew 6:25-34 is clear how we are to feel about this life. If you want to know more about […]
How Does Your Church Preach on Same-Sex Attraction?

Three Actions to Take Now to Reach Those Struggling with SSA When was the last time your pastor preached on same-sex attraction? Did he even call it that or did he call it homosexuality, gay, and other terms? Singles ministry and this issue are biblically woven together. The majority who struggle with or engage in […]

Blogs for Dating

Is Sexting OK in My Relationship

For those unaware, sexting is a form of provocative language between a couple using electronic communication. In a relationship, couples will often find creative ways to convey their love to one another. In years of old, this may have been letter writing or heaven forbid an actual conversation. In any relationship communication is key, but […]
Will Marriage Fix My Sexual Desires?

“But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” – 1 Corinthians 7:9 Marriage is more than a fix for sexual desires. In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul addresses marriage to the married, single, widowed and divorced adults. In light of the above passage, how […]
Single vs Married 3 Bucket List Differences

A bucket list is a compiled list of ideas, experiences and achievements a person wants to do before “kicking the bucket” (dying). So how is that list different for a single adult versus a married adult? Here are three categories we see they are the same and three ways we see they are different. […]
Marriage isn’t the Finish Line

The big day is here! Here comes the bride all dressed in white. The groom dressed to the nines in his rented tux stands fidgeting at the front to begin a ceremony that moves even the hardest of hearts to tears. Then comes the reception including a toast from the father of bride of just […]
I Fell in Love with an Atheist

There is no way to dice it or dance around it. I loved an atheist. I loved him with every fiber of my being. Had it not ended, I might have loved him more than I love God. In total transparency, my ex still has a small piece of my heart, that tiny shoebox in […]
Why am I single?

The question of why a person is STILL single starts with all the wrong questions and answers. Why am I all alone? – “You’re not good enough” Why have I not purchased a home yet? – “You need a house to be settled” Why is dating so hard? – “Love just happens” Why can’t I […]
End of the Rope with Addiction

Do you ever feel torn between doing what you know is right, and then doing the wrong thing anyway? Choosing to continue in a sin that you should be able to be free of, yet you keep making the same mistake. We have some comforting words for you, the apostle Paul had this same struggle […]
Single Myths: You’ll Know When the Right Person Enters Your Life

The falsity of the statement in this title reaches many levels. If you are a Christ follower, we’re sure you felt the same immediately as a single. Except the importance level, searching for a mate is no different than seeking and drawing closer to Jesus. A relationship whether with Jesus or with a friend […]
It’s Just Me This Christmas

Regardless whether a person is completely content with being single or not, the holidays for older single adults reveal a somber truth. It is logical then to see when time marches on, things change, and those who are dear to us pass on. For singles, this can create a situation they never saw coming. […]
The Love Chapter

You roll out of bed on a Sunday morning at the last possible minute and arrive 15 minutes late to your local church small group meeting. Today’s topic is on 1 Corinthians 13, the “love chapter.” Great. You settle in for a morning talking about couples and love and how they can love one another. […]

Blogs for Engagement

Is Sexting OK in My Relationship

For those unaware, sexting is a form of provocative language between a couple using electronic communication. In a relationship, couples will often find creative ways to convey their love to one another. In years of old, this may have been letter writing or heaven forbid an actual conversation. In any relationship communication is key, but […]
Marriage isn’t the Finish Line

The big day is here! Here comes the bride all dressed in white. The groom dressed to the nines in his rented tux stands fidgeting at the front to begin a ceremony that moves even the hardest of hearts to tears. Then comes the reception including a toast from the father of bride of just […]
Want to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage?

Singles you may or may not be married some day. At Table for One Ministries, we often include in our blogs the idea of being Complete in Christ for singles. But being Complete in Christ is not just for singles. It is for all adults. If you one day are called to marriage, remember this […]
I Fell in Love with an Atheist

There is no way to dice it or dance around it. I loved an atheist. I loved him with every fiber of my being. Had it not ended, I might have loved him more than I love God. In total transparency, my ex still has a small piece of my heart, that tiny shoebox in […]
End of the Rope with Addiction

Do you ever feel torn between doing what you know is right, and then doing the wrong thing anyway? Choosing to continue in a sin that you should be able to be free of, yet you keep making the same mistake. We have some comforting words for you, the apostle Paul had this same struggle […]
A Broken Engagement = Broken Dreams

According to leading wedding industry averages, nearly one-third of engagements end before the wedding day. That means when the right one says “I do,” there is more work to be done besides the wedding details. Engagement is not a time to stop focusing on your relationship, but rather the time to dig deeper into the […]
The Love Chapter

You roll out of bed on a Sunday morning at the last possible minute and arrive 15 minutes late to your local church small group meeting. Today’s topic is on 1 Corinthians 13, the “love chapter.” Great. You settle in for a morning talking about couples and love and how they can love one another. […]
An Eternal Perspective on Worry

I Love Jesus. Jesus Loves Me. I’m Going to Heaven. Simple right? But how many hours do we worry over paying bills, our retirement accounts, and having nice cars? All for what? As born-again Christians, Matthew 6:25-34 is clear how we are to feel about this life. If you want to know more about […]
What’s the Rush to Marry?

Being engaged is undervalued these days. When did the idea of making a lifelong commitment based off a short term relationship become the norm? The average engagement in America is 14 months, that is right over one year. Yet, in the Christian community, that is considered a “lifetime” of waiting for the “obvious” to happen. […]
To Marry or Not: Living Together

As a leader in your singles ministry you will have a dating couple in your group at some point that choose to live together or have a couple come into your group already living together. Sometimes these cohabiting/fornicating/living in sin adults will find their way to a married adult class trying to pass off as […]

Blogs on Divorce

Another Closed Door

When my marriage of 14 years ended against my wishes, I drove to and from work, often not remembering how I got there. When I arrived home at the end of the day, I found myself staring at the television without registering what was on. I was a zombie. All I could think was, “What […]
Separated or Single?

He walked out on his marriage a month ago and comes to your church. He’s brand new and comes to the singles group. He seems nice and you greet him, talk to him, and connect him. Over lunch that week, he mentions that he is recently divorced. As the conversation progresses, you realize that when […]
Being Dad Through Divorce

Divorce is ugly. Talk to anyone who is going through or has survived a divorced and unanimously they will say, even in the best of circumstances, divorce is hard. When children are involved in divorce, the stakes and emotions are even higher. From the day one spouse says the words “I want a divorce”, […]
Being Mom Through Divorce

Divorce is nasty. Talk to anyone who is going through or has survived a divorced and unanimously they will say, even in the best of circumstances, divorce is hard. When children are involved in divorce, the stakes and emotions are even higher. From the day one spouse says the words “I want a divorce”, life […]
End of the Rope with Addiction

Do you ever feel torn between doing what you know is right, and then doing the wrong thing anyway? Choosing to continue in a sin that you should be able to be free of, yet you keep making the same mistake. We have some comforting words for you, the apostle Paul had this same struggle […]
It’s Just Me This Christmas

Regardless whether a person is completely content with being single or not, the holidays for older single adults reveal a somber truth. It is logical then to see when time marches on, things change, and those who are dear to us pass on. For singles, this can create a situation they never saw coming. […]
Maybe It’s Your Fault You are Lonely

We all see the Facebook posts of a lonely person. Whether married or single, you have friends who post and post, and then post some more. It seems every time you check your feed, you know the last meal the ate and how food was! Then there are posts of loneliness and clear cries for […]
A Profile of Singles: Divorced Singles

A Deeper look at Divorced Singles At Table for One Ministries we are passionate about reaching singles of all ages and backgrounds. In this series of blogs we are looking at the “profile” of each type of single adult. While these are not all encompassing, they are meant to help singles and those who lead […]
An Eternal Perspective on Worry

I Love Jesus. Jesus Loves Me. I’m Going to Heaven. Simple right? But how many hours do we worry over paying bills, our retirement accounts, and having nice cars? All for what? As born-again Christians, Matthew 6:25-34 is clear how we are to feel about this life. If you want to know more about […]
Between Separation and Divorce

Between Separation and Divorce, there is the: Opportunity to focus on Christ. Do you move forward with divorce? Seek wise counsel. Look to His Word and as 1 Thessalonians 2:16 instructs us, pray continually. Opportunity to grow your relationship with Christ. Dust off your Bible and dig in. Look for verses to strengthen your heart. […]

Blogs for Single Parents

Single Parent and Complete in Christ

Complete in Christ not just a lifestyle. It is a mindset that no matter what happens or what worldly influences persist, wholeness is found in the Lord. Single families need to be reminded of Jeremiah 1:5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you…” Single […]
Marriage isn’t the Finish Line

The big day is here! Here comes the bride all dressed in white. The groom dressed to the nines in his rented tux stands fidgeting at the front to begin a ceremony that moves even the hardest of hearts to tears. Then comes the reception including a toast from the father of bride of just […]
End of the Rope with Addiction

Do you ever feel torn between doing what you know is right, and then doing the wrong thing anyway? Choosing to continue in a sin that you should be able to be free of, yet you keep making the same mistake. We have some comforting words for you, the apostle Paul had this same struggle […]
Feeling Alone in the Pew

It’s Sunday morning and you are off to church. You arrive on time for the worship service and slip into the back. Then, there it is. The happy couple in front of you with two kids and a dog at home with a nice home and great jobs. Just what you wanted to see when […]
One Way To Grow Your Singles Ministry You Missed

Pregnancy centers are commonplace now in our cities and towns. These centers of hope of a life yet to be born have contributed to the steady decline of abortions in the past decade. Churches and evangelicals alike praise their existence, from a distance. The sad reality of pregnancy centers are they lack volunteer and church […]
Four Things the Single Parent Needs from the Church

Single parenting! I remember those days well! When I entered into this stage in my life I had just left the military but little did I realize I was entering into an even bigger challenge. One that would demand more physical and mental stamina than my Drill Sergeants had demanded from me. My daily routine […]
Snip, snip. Ouch, ouch!

I have this problem called self-reliance. Lately, it’s been popping up in my prayers in the form of raw inappropriate confession. “I want to do this by myself!” “Why do I have to wait for you! Why do I have to trust you for everything! Isn’t what you have enough?” Yikes. I know, right. But, […]
Silent Christmas Morning

A single parent has to live with the reality of the first Christmas without the kids. The glow of the Christmas lights from the tree is the only warmth that fills the room. What started out years ago as a joyous holiday morning filled with traditions has disintegrated into court documents dictating where kids will […]
The Single Parent Family Defined

The contemporary family of today cannot be defined as a nuclear family consisting of a mother and father and children. Families come in different sizes, different ways, and many consist of one parent. Single parents are no longer defined in only one singular category. Single parents come from varied backgrounds, generations, and socioeconomic settings. Single […]
A Profile of Singles: Single Parents

A Deeper Look at Single Parents At Table for One Ministries we are passionate about reaching singles of all ages and backgrounds. In this series of blogs we are looking at the “profile” of each type of single adult. While these are not all encompassing, they are meant to help singles and those who lead […]

Blogs for Widows

Time with God

There are some excellent reading plans available to read the entire Bible in a year or even 90 days. These plans are great, and we encourage you to try one at least once. As a follower of Christ, you need to build a relationship with Him and know Him better. This comes through many venues. […]
A culture that hides death hides the Gospel

History lessons teach the impact of death prevalent in culture when death is removed. A look at the Middle Ages finds people lived daily with the reality of death. A look at our current culture reveals a much different story. The current American lifestyle not only doesn’t discuss death, it finds ways to minimize and […]
Can’t Take It With You

Proven fact: if it’s here, it stays here. Have you ever stopped to look around your home at all the things you have? This is not a blog about how “things” are bad or how we should even sell it all and give it to the poor. This post is about the life of a […]
Sunday Single Selection

It is Saturday night and you know you should go to church tomorrow, yet you have reservations in your heart about where to go or if you should find somewhere new to go. You want to Worship and hear the Word preached, but the church you go to does not seem to get being single or you […]
I Am a Widow, But Do I Have To Be Single?

The death of a spouse is tough. In addition to the grief, there can be the confusion of changing financial arrangements, and the assumption of household and family responsibilities that were once shared. For many, there is also the added challenge of discovering where they now “fit” among the social circles present in their local […]
Marriage isn’t the Finish Line

The big day is here! Here comes the bride all dressed in white. The groom dressed to the nines in his rented tux stands fidgeting at the front to begin a ceremony that moves even the hardest of hearts to tears. Then comes the reception including a toast from the father of bride of just […]
Coping with Loneliness

Loneliness can come into our lives in many different circumstances. You may be the only person in your home. Society can make a single person feel alone or you may be suffering without no one to turn to for comfort. You may be sad over the loss of a loved one. Each single adult is […]
Build Your Testimony

What is a testimony? It is simply sharing how you responded to Christ call in your life. After his encounter with Christ when he spoke before King Agrippa the Apostle Paul was an example for us on how to share our testimony. Read Acts 26 to hear Paul tell his story. Before – Acts 26: […]
An Eternal Perspective on Worry

I Love Jesus. Jesus Loves Me. I’m Going to Heaven. Simple right? But how many hours do we worry over paying bills, our retirement accounts, and having nice cars? All for what? As born-again Christians, Matthew 6:25-34 is clear how we are to feel about this life. If you want to know more about […]
Single Struggles: I Don’t Want to Live Without You

After the funeral is over and life has released its hold button, a widow struggles with a new reality that they are now single again. Thoughts and emotions are all capsized in a singular thought “I don’t want to live without you.” It’s not that this widow is suicidal, far from it. It was just […]

Blogs for Singles on Mission

What To Do When the Church Fails You

First and foremost, I want to say this is not a piece bashing the church. Did the church fail me? Were there consequences? Yes and yes. What am I doing now? But most importantly, what did God do? September 2019 marked two years since my world fell apart. It wasn’t the typical tragedy you hear […]
Names for a Singles Ministry

We have had requests to post a list of singles ministry names we found while serving singles and those who lead singles during the past few years. This list is names we have seen with some added suggestions. Feel free to comment and add your own names as you find them. At Table for One […]
Creating a Church Where Same-Sex Attraction Singles are Welcomed

At Table for One Ministries we want every church to have an environment in which those struggling with homosexually or acting on their earthly desires can come to find the truth of God’s Word regarding the issue. We have asked those who struggle with same-sex attraction what environment they were in when they shared their […]
Single Parent and Complete in Christ

Complete in Christ not just a lifestyle. It is a mindset that no matter what happens or what worldly influences persist, wholeness is found in the Lord. Single families need to be reminded of Jeremiah 1:5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you…” Single […]
All In

If I had known at 20 that at age 30 I would be serving as a single female missionary in the Middle East, I would have probably married the next guy that came along. And, I would have regretted it, I’m positive. Why? Because I am right where I am supposed to be. On the […]
Another Closed Door

When my marriage of 14 years ended against my wishes, I drove to and from work, often not remembering how I got there. When I arrived home at the end of the day, I found myself staring at the television without registering what was on. I was a zombie. All I could think was, “What […]
You Don’t Deserve my Forgiveness

I forgive you. Three words that people fight to say all the time. It could be pride, jealousy, or even anger that causes us not to want to offer forgiveness but we don’t say them nearly enough. Why? How can we learn how to say “I am sorry” and offer forgiveness to those who don’t […]
A Single Budget: Those Unexpected Expenses

For some, it is pretty easy to stick to a Spending Plan except when some unexpected expense arises. Some of these expenses can be predicted, some are just pure, unwelcome surprises. It is important to have an emergency fund to take care of the unwelcome surprises that we know will happen from time to time. […]
Is Sexting OK in My Relationship

For those unaware, sexting is a form of provocative language between a couple using electronic communication. In a relationship, couples will often find creative ways to convey their love to one another. In years of old, this may have been letter writing or heaven forbid an actual conversation. In any relationship communication is key, but […]
A Single Budget: How Can I Have a Life When I Have No Money?

What a great church service you had this morning. Now all your friends from the Singles Group are heading out to lunch. You know your money is tight and a constant headache, but you just can’t take going back to your apartment and having something frozen. Besides you deserve to go out to eat because […]

Blogs for Leading Singles

What To Do When the Church Fails You

First and foremost, I want to say this is not a piece bashing the church. Did the church fail me? Were there consequences? Yes and yes. What am I doing now? But most importantly, what did God do? September 2019 marked two years since my world fell apart. It wasn’t the typical tragedy you hear […]
Names for a Singles Ministry

We have had requests to post a list of singles ministry names we found while serving singles and those who lead singles during the past few years. This list is names we have seen with some added suggestions. Feel free to comment and add your own names as you find them. At Table for One […]
Creating a Church Where Same-Sex Attraction Singles are Welcomed

At Table for One Ministries we want every church to have an environment in which those struggling with homosexually or acting on their earthly desires can come to find the truth of God’s Word regarding the issue. We have asked those who struggle with same-sex attraction what environment they were in when they shared their […]
Single vs Married 3 Bucket List Differences

A bucket list is a compiled list of ideas, experiences and achievements a person wants to do before “kicking the bucket” (dying). So how is that list different for a single adult versus a married adult? Here are three categories we see they are the same and three ways we see they are different. […]
Marriage isn’t the Finish Line

The big day is here! Here comes the bride all dressed in white. The groom dressed to the nines in his rented tux stands fidgeting at the front to begin a ceremony that moves even the hardest of hearts to tears. Then comes the reception including a toast from the father of bride of just […]
The Discipline of a Sacred Friendship

One of the few things that Hollywood has gotten right over the past few years is tapping into the “friendship effect” among young single adults. On any given evening, you can find numerous TV programs that depict a community of young adult friends (male and female) sharing life together as a “family” in a postmodern […]
A culture that hides death hides the Gospel

History lessons teach the impact of death prevalent in culture when death is removed. A look at the Middle Ages finds people lived daily with the reality of death. A look at our current culture reveals a much different story. The current American lifestyle not only doesn’t discuss death, it finds ways to minimize and […]
Mental Health and Allowing God to Use All Options

Your friends, family, and loved ones already know. They see it on your face every day, and hear it in your voice when you speak. The struggle, once a moment, has settled into a season, and you’re not sure how to get out. You pray. You read Scripture. You believe in a God who heals […]
End of the Rope with Addiction

Do you ever feel torn between doing what you know is right, and then doing the wrong thing anyway? Choosing to continue in a sin that you should be able to be free of, yet you keep making the same mistake. We have some comforting words for you, the apostle Paul had this same struggle […]
Single for a Reason?

Through my many years of singles ministry and working with pastors, one phrase is repeated often — “single for a reason”. It is the idea that singles are composed of misfits and odd ducks that are stranger than… married people. Next time you hear this phrase, here are some possible responses: We’re all messed […]

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