Enjoying Singleness and Serving Christ

Updated November 8, 2026.

This reflection was originally shared by a contributor who signed it “A Single Adult.” Their experience is one perspective on enjoying singleness and using its opportunities to serve.

No worries? Okay, maybe not. Single adults have worries, just as married people do. But from my own perspective, I am happy with my life. I think being single is great.

Enjoying the choices in front of me

After a long day, I appreciate being able to choose what to eat and how to spend the evening. I can plan a vacation around my schedule and decide which purchases fit my priorities.

That does not describe every single adult’s circumstances. Single parents, caregivers, and people sharing a home have other people’s needs to consider. This is what I have appreciated about my own life.

If that sounds self-absorbed, that is not what I am trying to say. The freedom I enjoy also creates room to give.

Using freedom to serve

I volunteer for missions and give to local charities. I also volunteer in the preschool hall at my church. The time I could keep for myself can become time shared with others.

As a follower of Christ, I want to give my resources, energy, and attention to His work. I do not need to wait for a different relationship status to begin.

Following Jesus in the life I have

Matthew 16:24 calls Jesus’ disciples to deny themselves, take up their cross, and follow Him. That is a call I can answer where I am today.

Singleness does not remove trouble. In John 16:33, Jesus prepares His disciples for difficulty while grounding their courage in His victory. Still, I can recognize opportunities in my circumstances and use them faithfully.

What this can look like for you

From Table for One Ministries: Gratitude for singleness does not require claiming that your life is easier than everyone else’s. You can enjoy a quiet evening, meaningful work, or an opportunity to serve while also admitting what is difficult.

First Corinthians 7:32–35 highlights devotion to the Lord and the different responsibilities marriage brings. It does not make every unmarried person free of obligations. Our article on singleness and time explores that distinction.

Start with the life in front of you. Make room for time with God, choose a realistic way to serve, and protect relationships that help you grow. Our guide to singles serving in church can help you consider opportunities without saying yes to everything.

Keep investing in biblical friendship. Freedom does not mean having no one to care for or no one who cares about you. The Faithful devotional offers further encouragement for following Christ in ordinary days.

Questions about enjoying singleness

Can I enjoy being single and still hope to marry?

Yes. Gratitude for your present life and a desire for marriage can exist together. You do not have to dismiss one to be honest about the other.

Does serving faithfully mean taking every opportunity?

No. Consider your responsibilities, health, and capacity. A sustainable commitment kept with care is valuable, even when you cannot accept another request.