Single Struggles: I Don’t Want to Live Without You

After the funeral is over and life has released its hold button, a widow struggles with a new reality that they are now single again. Thoughts and emotions are all capsized in a singular thought “I don’t want to live without you.” It’s not that this widow is suicidal, far from it. It was just that the years of experiences together culminated in a life that seemed to only exist with the other. Now that person is gone and as a widow or widower you must move forward.

Remember that in Christ Jesus you are whole and while your love was deep, our Father’s love for you is so much deeper. You are complete in Christ, not in your late spouse. You can walk forward knowing that as a follower of Christ you can face tomorrow because He lives in you. Be strong, push yourself to be active in your church, push yourself to build new relationships and continue those already established.

“Because He Lives!”

Because He lives, I can face tomorrow,

Because He lives, all fear is gone;

Because I know He holds the future,

And life is worth the living,

Just because He lives!

Single Struggles: Fear

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“Only thing we to fear, is fear itself”  – Franklin D. Roosevelt

“I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears.”

– Psalm 43:4

Fear can be gripping, keeping us paralyzed from taking any action because it could turn out to be the wrong move. Fear is not something we should be taken captive by as we can seek the Lord in all things and the peace of God will come over us. Philippians 4:6-7. All we have to do is humble ourselves to our God and cast our fears unto Him because He cares for us that much! 1Peter 5:6-7.

As a single adult you may fear commitment, relationships, social situations, financial stability, among many others, but praise be to God that we can cast those fears to Him and let Him handle it all! God is love, He loves you so much His Word tells us to seek Him and let it all go so that we may have a peace that goes beyond all understanding in our trials.

Having a relationship with Jesus Christ is vital to not letting fear take over your life. That is why we, at Table for One Ministries, believe that the most important relationship in your life is your relationship with Jesus Christ. All other relationships flow from that relationship and define who we are as children of the one true King. Have you made that commitment in your life to place your relationship with Christ first? Have you made the first step of trusting Him as your Lord?

“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God;

I will strengthen you, I will help you,

I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

– Isaiah 41:10

Single Struggles: Alcohol

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As a tee-totaling Southern Baptist, I feel under qualified to be writing an article about the particular struggles singles face regarding drinking alcohol.  I have a bias against the stuff in this country. I don’t like the way it is marketed, and I don’t like the way our culture uses it. Alcohol has become the drug of choice which Americans use to escape life. The lie being sold here is that you need to escape life to have fun. I hate that lie, and that lie is why I don’t drink.

I want to talk about “social drinking”. It seems that just about anywhere a single person would go to hang out, meet up with friends, or meet new people, is a place where alcohol is served. Whether it is a ball game, a sports bar, a nightclub, a concert, or even bowling, there will likely be drinks offered. It is a standard business model for the American social entertainment industry. We offer inexpensive entertainment, and make up the profits selling alcohol.

As a Christian Single, I want to challenge you to find another way. Christ came that we might have abundant life. Life is to be grasped and lived, not endured or escaped or dulled by alcohol. I love coffee shops! I’ll grant you, it is a different drug, but it doesn’t encourage escaping life. Enjoy sports, skip the beer. Go dancing, lose the cocktails. In Christ, troubles are to be faced and overcome, not avoided. Life itself is a celebration! Don’t dull yourself to it, be here for it!